Dealing with emotional disturbance
It will only hurt for awhile, no longer than necessary, to heal us. We can trust that if we must feel pain, it is of healing, and it is good. - September 8 - The Language of Letting Go
Everything that happens is for my benefit!
It seems that my brain is hard-wired to avoid emotional, mental and spiritual pain. My ego does not want to face up to any form of dis-ease. This is where avoiding came into my life.
In recovery, I was taught to expect emotional and mental disturbance. It has been pointed out to me that these pains manifest themselves in order to draw attention to the fact that some part of my life requires care and attention. This is not to say I enjoy the experience, it is instead a way to see life from an objective point of view.
How difficult it was to determine the cause of my pain when I was deluded to the fact that I am responsible for creating my entire reality.
So pain and turbulence for me is an indication that I am doing something that does not serve me, or I may be avoiding doing something that will serve me.
Basic checklist
- Am I involved in a sick codependent relationship which requires immediate termination?
- Do I need to draw a boundary?
- Am I allowing others to treat me as a doormat?
- Do I need to ask my flatmate to move out?
- Do I accept unacceptable behavior from others?
- Am I trying to make sense out of other peoples non-sense?
- Am I buying into other people's problems?
- Am I trying to seek unnecessary approval from others?
- Am I bending myself into a pretzel in order to get others to like me?
- Do I still think that I am incomplete without a partner?
- Am I trying to live the life that was prescribed for me even though it makes no sense to me?
So pain and turmoil always seem to arrive to indicate that some kind of positive action is required in order to restore peace and serenity.
Today I do not judge my days as good or bad. Today I have good days or I have growth days. Today I welcome growth. So life gets easier once I become willing to accept all of life as contributory to my growth. For this I am grateful.
